There are two qualities that define most men, they seldom like to ask for help, and they do not like to talk about their feelings. Combining the two — asking for help about our feelings — is the ultimate affront to many men’s masculinity.

Most men like to think of themselves as strong, problem-solver types. But when it comes to emotional and mental issues, men need to quit trying to bottle up their feelings and tough it out.

“Your mental health is equally as important as your physical health. Not addressing negative feelings can carry over to all aspects of your life and have a profound impact.” says Dr. Darshan Mehta, medical director of the Benson-Henry Institute at the Massachusetts General Hospital.

Generally, if you’re struggling, feeling stuck, feel like you want to sort out a specific problem (or your life) and don’t know where to start, coaching can help.

We all have a life story to tell, but sometimes it’s not clear how all the dots that make up our story are connected. What has made us who we are? What has shaped us to become who we are and how we feel today? A coach can listen to your story and help you make connections so that you can understand yourself better.